does size really matter?
Regular readers of this blog may have noticed that, in addition to telling you where I got something and sometimes how much it cost, I usually also try to include what size I’m wearing. Perhaps some of you like that aspect (my roommate, for one, told me she likes it), while others may be wondering, “What’s up with that? Why does she do that?”
You might also think, since I make a point to try to include sizes, that size is obviously really important – when in fact my inclusion of it is actually to prove just the opposite (sort of). Let me explain.
If there’s one thing I have learned from Stacy and Clinton, it’s that fit – and dressing your body for the size you are now, not the size you used to be or the size you wish you were – is very important. But I personally don’t think size – the number itself – is worth a rat’s ass. And I think far too many people, women especially, place huge importance on it and thus place some kind of strange pressure on themselves to fit into X size and meet X standard of beauty.
I am 5’8″, 160 lbs. I have clothes ranging from size 4 to size 15! Sizes S to XL. Am I bragging in any way? Not at all. Am I embarrassed or ashamed? Far from it. And I include sizes for two reasons:
1. To share how sizes run, whether big or small (because every brand/line/style is different)
2. To show that size really is just a number (or a letter); it’s all about how it fits.
If you’ve put on a few pounds or slacked on your diet & exercise and maybe your clothes aren’t fitting the way you prefer, invest in some new ones to tide you over while you work on yourself and your goals. There is nothing sadder than people in ill-fitting clothing – too-tight jeans, stomach hanging out, etc. It makes me think that they’re in denial or just plain don’t value themselves. Don’t be one of those people who puts themselves at the bottom of the list.
The same is true for people who have lost a lot of weight but are still wearing their “fat clothes.” This has come up many a time on What Not to Wear – women who have achieved truly impressive goals but still want to lose more, have plateaued but are not at their ideal target weight. So instead of buying new clothes to fit their newly smaller bodies, they continue wearing things too big, too loose, too ugly and unflattering. They’re hiding in them because they still see themselves as the person – and the size – they were instead of the person who has worked really hard to accomplish something for their physical and mental health. And that is doing oneself a great disservice.
Be fair to yourselves! Be kind to yourselves and your bodies! If something is too small, go up a size. It’s not the end of the world! Who even sees it? And moreover, who cares?
Would I like – to paraphrase Bridget Jones’s Diary – to be thinner, with slightly bigger breasts or slightly smaller nose? Well, sure! We are our own harshest critics and all have stuff about ourselves we’d like to change. But loving yourself just as you are is a pretty great feeling.